Wedding Procedure Of THEVAR Community
Traditionallly, the Devar wedding would be conducted at the groom's residence. Today, the venue
has shifted to wedding halls. Nevertheless, the marriage is celebrated with gaiety and fervour.
The Ceremonial Procession
The marriage begins with the bridegroom's party visiting the bride’s house in a ceremonial
procession, carrying turmeric, coconuts, plantains, betel leaves, flowers, dry fruits and a saree for
the bride including the thali and a thread dyed yellow with turmeric.
The Muhurtham refers to the auspicious timing of the actual wedding ceremony itself. This is based
on astrology. Usually, the auspicious time is set early in the morning (5 am till around 7-8 am). The
wedding ceremony will be held under the marriage canopy which consist of a temporary thatched
structure fashioned by coconut leaves knit together.
The thalikettu is the highlight of the marriage. The bride is bedecked in fine jewelry and an ornate
sari and made to sit to the right of the groom. The thali is taken around in a plate and blessings of
elders and relatives is sought. After this, the groom in ties the thali around the bride's neck assisted
by his sister. Three knots are made and as this happens, conch shells are blown and nadaswaram is
played in a high pitch. Once the thali is tied the bride sits at the groom's left. Both of them face east.
Coconuts are broken and prayers are offered to the gods.
Maalai Matral refers to the act of the couple exchanging garlands. This is followed by the groom
taking the right hand of the bride and going around the sacred fire thrice. Once this is completed, the
couple prostrate before their parents and elders to seek blessings.